Never apologize for tears of grief that help you heal.

Tears are the first words in grief.

After Dan died, it’s like a valve was turned allowing my tears to tumble easily throughout the day.

I cried alone, I cried during my morning quiet time, I cried with my kids. I cried while running, I cried with friends, I cried in the car. I cried myself to sleep and cried in my dreams.

Sundays brought an overflow of tears. I usually made it through teaching with just a few tears and held them back when talking with friends.

But worship undid me. It seemed the song set was picked just for me helping me express deep groanings of my shattered heart. There, wrapped in the presence of God, tears came hot and steady, a messy mix of grief for who we’d lost and hope because of Who held us.

I never knew a person could cry so many tears.
I never knew a person could cry so many tears for so many months.

Never apologize for your tears.

God who created us also created our emotions and in his flawless design has given humans alone the unique gift of emotional tears.

It’s no wonder science keeps uncovering the incredible benefit of our tears.

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