The holidays are hard when you’re grieving.
While the rest of the world seems excitedly engaged in decking their homes, planning parties, and keeping fun family traditions, it’s hard to fathom a Christmas without your loved one. What used to bring joy — things like making cookies or decorating the tree — now seem hollow. The days are laced with dull pain and constant triggers of the huge loss you’re now navigating.
In deep grief, God is our comfort. Psalm 34:11 declares that The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve cried out for God to rescue my crushed heart and how His nearness sustained me in my deepest missing.
God’s presence doesn’t take the pain away; God’s presence sustains us in the pain.
The Bible tells us that God is the Father of Compassion and God of all Comfort who comforts us in our troubles. (2 Cor 1:3) If we cry out to God for comfort, it’s a prayer He will always answer.
So as we face the holidays without the one we love, let’s lift up this Christmas prayer for grieving hearts. It may be a prayer for your own grieving heart or a prayer you lift for someone else walking through grief and loss.
A Christmas Prayer for Grieving Hearts
Dear Lord, we cry out to you. Where else would we go with our deep loss? Our heart is split open, our pain feels like it’s pulling us under and our spirit is crushed.
You have promised to be close to the brokenhearted and to draw near to us if we will draw near to You. So we come with open hands and wounded hearts, asking You to carry us now when we are too weak to see our way through this grief. We come to You, the only One who can heal us, lift our head and walk us through this dark season into your light and life.
Comfort us as only You can. You know the depth of our sorrow and how many tears we’ve cried. You have counted every one and collected them in a bottle. Wrap us with Your presence and fill the empty spaces of our heart with the length and width and height and depth of Your love for us.
Let us see Your good even on days which feel so far from it. Surprise us with your goodness and open our eyes so that we don’t miss a thing You are doing. We declare this: You are good and You do good.
Lord, even though we don’t understand the circumstances, even though we have questions and even fear for the future, we trust You. Help us to trust You with every fiber of our being and anchor our faith in You alone. Give us Your peace that passes all understanding so that we can rest in Your ways and Your paths.
Thank You for living hope. Thank You that our hope is alive and well in Jesus. Thank You for heaven, for our true home. Thank You that this suffering is not all there is and that we will have eternity with You. Thank You for taking on flesh and dwelling among us, for taking our pain and bearing our sorrows, so that you might not just know our suffering but so that You could deliver us from it. We praise You and thank You for the gift of eternal life.
O, Lord, only You know that while the world celebrates with merrymaking and song, we are weighed down with pain. We need to know that it won’t always feel like this and that You have a hope and a future for us. Restore joy to us. Put a new song in our mouth that we might praise You and live out the abundance of life that You’ve promised and secured for us.
God, we have such deep need and we can’t fix it. Sustain us. Carry us. Bring us through. Heal our hearts.
We love You with all of our heart, all of our soul, all of our mind and all of our strength. You are THE gift. Forgive us for putting anything else in that place.
We look to You, we trust You and we adore You. You are our one and only.
Bind us to You with Your cords of kindness. In the strong and precious name of Jesus our Savior we pray, Amen.
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MaryJo Landwehr says
Karyn Meyer says
I have backslidden since losing my husband and I have never felt so lost or like such a huge disappointment to God for choices I’ve been making and I’m so scared of future. Im jobless and have no real talent other than hard labor which my body CANNOT handle any more. Ty for this article. Please pray if God still loves me and has purpose for my life,that he shows up in my life on a very real and personal way and he allows me to feel his love for me personally and he opens up doors for employment thats enough to not have to work 2 jobs anymore because ever since losing Bryan, I’ve not been able to keep a job and I’m going to lose everything if I dont find meaningful employment very soon but I first need healing that only God can give😭
“Everything works for the good for those who love the Lord”
Read Isaiah 43, I found comfort in it
God is right there with you dear lady He has never left you. Turn to Him and allow Him to bring the healing that you long for. God is faithful even when we are faithless….
praying for you
Lisa Cook says
Thank you for these beautiful words of encouragement and hope, Lisa. May The LORD bless and refresh you exceedingly, abundantly, above and beyond all you could ask or think (Eph. 3:20). May His Spirit fill your home with the deep and sustaining joy and peace that only He can give. And in the year ahead, may your ear be always at His lips.
Miriam Anderson says
I’ll be sharing this with my dad, who will be spending his third Christmas without my mom this year.
Sue smith says
Thank you for sharing the heart of God . This is my second Christmas without my husband and stepdaughter and it’s no easier than the first. Thank you also for sharing your heart . God bless x
Jo Pushong says
Through your pain, you have dug deeper into the heart of God and encouraged so many along the way, myself included. I am so happy when I see a not from Lisa in my inbox. Your study of the gospels galvanised me into studying the gospel of John with two other ladies and we have been encouraged, challenged and humbled by the love of Jesus and His sacrifice for us. It has caused us to marvel anew, with awe, at the gift of salvation.
May your Christmas be filled with hope and joy. Please know you have been a blessing to many.