It’s the club no one ever wanted to be in. From wife to widow.
One day I was happily married and in the space of a few hours, a widow and single mom to 7.
Days later, at the funeral service for my husband, an older woman gently approached me, extended a hug and said she was from the widow’s ministry at church.
“Oh. I’m a widow,” I mumbled through the fog that was grief as the reality of my new identity hit me.
Grappling with deep grief for me and my children, one of the first things I did was look up every Bible verse on widows and the fatherless. Sure I’d read them over the years, but now these scriptures applied to me. To my children.
And so one morning, I flipped from my concordance to the pages of my Bible and was astounded at what I found.
God loves the widow and fatherless.
He has always taken care of them. God’s Old Testament laws made special provision for them, protected them and their land, and gave serious warning to anyone who took advantage of them.
And the New Testament does the same. The very role of deacon came about because of the church needed godly men of integrity who would make sure daily provision was made for the widow. Timothy gave detailed instructions to the early church on how to care for widows.
But even more important, God’s very character is described as the defender of widows and father to the fatherless. The word for “defender” means advocate — one who pleads the cause, renders justice and rescues from wrongdoing.
Caring for the widow and the fatherless is not just what God does; it’s who he is.
And because it’s his character it will never change. God has always cared for the widow and fatherless and he always will. We can count on not only his promises for the widow, but his character.
If you are a widow or single mom, if you’re raising children without a father, be assured that God is for you.
12 Bible verses for the widow and single mom
A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. Psalm 68:5
Do not take advantage of the widow or the fatherless. If you do and they cry out to me, I will certainly hear their cry. Exodus 22:22-23 (NLT)
Cursed is he who withholds justice from the foreigner, the fatherless, or the widow.’ And let all the people say, ‘Amen!’ Deuteronomy 27:19
For the LORD your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great, mighty, and awesome God, showing no partiality and accepting no bribe. He executes justice for the fatherless and widow, and He loves the foreigner, giving him food and clothing. Deuteronomy 10:17-18
Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord their God. . . The Lord watches over the foreigner and sustains the fatherless and the widow. . . Psalm 146:5, 9
The widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help. 1 Timothy 5:5 (NLT)
Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you. James 1:27
Learn to do right! Seek justice, encourage the oppressed. Defend the cause of the fatherless, plead the case of the widow. Isaiah 1:17
Jesus sat down near the collection box in the Temple and watched as the crowds dropped in their money. Many rich people put in large amounts. Then a poor widow came and dropped in two small coins. Jesus called his disciples to him and said, ‘I tell you the truth, this poor widow has given more than all the others who are making contributions. For they gave a tiny part of their surplus, but she, poor as she is, has given everything she had to live on.’ Mark 12:41-44
True justice must be given to foreigners living among you and to orphans, and you must never accept a widow’s garment as security for her debt. Deuteronomy 24:17 (NLT)
Defend the cause of the weak and fatherless; maintain the rights of the poor and oppressed. Psalm 82:3
For in You the fatherless find compassion. Hosea 14:3