“I’m going to need some books,” I said to a friend just hours after my husband Dan suddenly died. I had no idea what grief would look like and I wanted the best Christian books on grief and loss to help me through the looming unknown.
I didn’t know anyone in my circle of friends or even acquaintances who had walked through such deep grief. None of my close friends or family had experienced deep loss either. I needed books on how to manage grief, books to bring hope after a loved one dies, and books to help me navigate the hard emotions of loss.
I’ve done the leg work for you and put together this list of the best Christian books on grief and loss. These are books I found in my own grief journey and after talking to hundreds of women (mostly) in their own bereavement. I’ve included the two bestselling books I’ve written on grief, both best se
This list is divided into sections with grief books for any kind of loss, books for a widow, books on baby loss, miscarriage and child loss, and books on suffering and heaven that have been hugely helpful in my own journey through loss. It’s updated and continually revised as new books come out.
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Note: if you’re navigating children through grief, be sure to look at this list I compiled of the best books on grief for children.
Best Christian Books on Grief and Loss
God of Comfort: A Devotional Journal for the Grieving Heart
God of Comfort is a 50-day devotional journal to gently and honestly work through your grief with God. Each devotion focuses on one facet of God’s character for us in grief such as God who Sees Me, God Who’s With Me, God Who Bottles My Tears, God My Hope, and more. Each devotion is anchored by Scripture and has a guided prayer, journaling prompts, and journaling space to write your way through sorrow.
Because the way through grief isn’t a method or a prescription. The way through grief is a person: God of all comfort. Find God of Comfort here.
Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart
Life Can Be Good Again will help you navigate your raw emotions with God, find your footing in massive change, overcome paralyzing fear and anchor your faith when hope is threadbare.
Your unexpected future may feel like Plan B, but it’s God’s purposeful Chapter Two for you as He reshapes your shattered heart. With each tender, intentional step, you’ll see you will not merely survive this, but that life can be good again.” Find more about Life Can Be Good Again here.
A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss
Jerry Sittser is a pastor whose wife, daughter and mother were killed in a single car accident, leaving him a widower and single father. A Grace Disguised is a raw and real look at grief and at trying to piece together the frayed ends of a life you never expected. Several years later, Sittser followed with A Grace Revealed: How God Redeems the Story of Your Life.
Every Moment Holy: Death, Grief, and Hope
Every Moment Holy is a book of 100 liturgies for the season of grief and loss from Rabbit Room Press. This beautiful book is imitation leather bound, gilt-edged and filled with illustrations.
Streams in the Desert
This is a classic devotional, updated in modern language, that contains writings, poems, songs and meditations on trials and suffering. Reading a portion each day helped me refocus my heart on the hope we have in Christ. Find Streams in the Desert here.
A Grief Observed
C.S. Lewis chronicled his raw and messy sorrow after the death of his wife, Joy Davidman. He put no bow around grief. In his signature prose, Lewis articulates the aches and surprises of loss while untangling what God does in and through loss. A Grief Observed here.
Suffering is Never for Nothing
This book is classic Elisabeth Elliot. Elisabeth was widowed in her late 20s when her husband and missionary, Jim Elliot, was killed trying to reach the Auca people. She raised her daughter as a single mom and later got remarried, only to have her second husband die from cancer two years after their wedding. Twice widowed, Elisabeth unpacks Biblical truths that assure us suffering is never for nothing.
Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy
Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy unpacks the grace of Biblical lament as a way to process grief, pain, and suffering. Lament is a practice modeled throughout Scripture, especially in the Psalms and Lamentions. Lament helps us work through the hard emotions and questions that surface in grief while re-anchoring our trust in God’s character and promises.
Hinds Feet on High Places
Hinds Feet on High Places is an allegory by Hannah Hurnard based on Psalm 18:33. The story follows Much-Afraid who lives in the valley follows the Chief Shepherd as she journeys to the High Place, encountering companions Sorrow and Suffering on the way.
Suffering: Gospel Hope When Life Doesn’t Make Sense
This book is from well-known author Paul David Tripp, whose active life came to a screeching halt when he went into kidney failure. After multiple-surgeries dealing with his now chronic medical condition, Tripp peels away the layers of suffering in Biblical context. This book isn’t a warm, fuzzy comfort in the ache of grief, but it helps explain the place of suffering in the life of believers. Find Suffering here.
Christian Books for Widows
God of Comfort: A Devotional Journal For the Grieving Heart
God of Comfort is a 50-day devotional journal to gently and honestly work through your grief with God. Each devotion focuses on one facet of God’s character for us in grief such as God who Sees Me, God Who’s With Me, God Who Bottles My Tears, God My Hope, and more. Each devotion is anchored by Scripture and has a guided prayer, journaling prompts, and journaling space to write your way through sorrow.
Because the way through grief isn’t a method or a prescription. The way through grief is a person: God of all comfort. Find God of Comfort here.
Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart
Life Can Be Good Again will help you navigate your raw emotions with God, find your footing in massive change, overcome paralyzing fear and anchor your faith when hope is threadbare.
Your unexpected future may feel like Plan B, but it’s God’s purposeful Chapter Two for you as He reshapes your shattered heart. With each tender, intentional step, you’ll see you will not merely survive this, but that life can be good again.” Find more about Life Can Be Good Again here.
Widow’s Might
Widow’s Might is a compilation of 365 short devotions written by multiple widows, compiled and edited by Rachel Faulkner Brown. It’s meant to help you along your healing journey to find strength as God transforms sorrow into joy.
Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse
Getting to the Other Side of Grief was one of the first books I read after Dan died. It’s written by a now husband-wife team, who both lost their first spouses. It felt a bit clinical to me and less personal, possibly because the authors are therapists and write about grief more as a report than as an experience. While it didn’t meet me deeply in my grief like I’d hoped, it did help me understand what I was dealing with.
Christian Books for Grief in Miscarriage, Baby Loss, and Child Loss
Cradled in Hope: Trusting Jesus to Heal Your Heart as He Holds Your Baby in Heaven
When my son and daughter-in-law walked through the excruciating stillbirth of their little boy, this was one of the first books I turned to. I trust my friend and author Ashley Opliger, who also experienced infant loss and founded Bridget’s Cradles. Find Cradled in Hope here.
Loved Baby: 31 Devotions Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child after Pregnancy Loss
This award-winning book will help you grieve and cherish the baby you never got to hold. Sarah walks through practical steps like dealing with social media, intimacy in marriage after loss, honoring the due date and more. This is one I’ve sent to friends after they’ve experienced miscarriage. Read Sarah’s guest post and find Loved Baby here.
Lament for a Son
This is the only book in the list I haven’t personally read but I’m adding it on the recommendation of several trusted friends. Wolterstorff began writing about grief after his 25-year-old son died in a mountain climbing accident. You can find it here.
Christian Books on Heaven
Heaven: A Comprehensive Guide to Everything the Bible Says on Our Eternal Home
After Dan’s death, my children and I had a lot of questions about heaven. Knowing about heaven comforts us as we understand where our loved ones are now and focus our hope from the temporary to eternity. This is one of the best books on what the Bible has to say about heaven, separating cultural myths from Scriptural truth. Randy Allcorn’s Heaven: A Comprehensive Guide to Everything the Bible Says on Our Eternal Home.
Heaven, a Bible study
Jennifer Rothschild has released a Bible study with video teachings on heaven. In seven sessions, dive into what God’s Word tells us about our heavenly home and how that impacts our life today. Find the Heaven Bible study here.
Lisa, my momma read “Heaven” by Randy Alcorn the year before she was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She had no idea she would be getting that news when she opened the first page. But, she was so excited about heaven after reading it. She talked often about how wonderful heaven was going to be. Then…the diagnosis. Her memories of that book gave her such peace as she walked through the valley leading up to her death. She spoke of it often in those last days. I have it in my bookshelf. I haven’t had the heart to read it yet. I know I will. She loved it so much. I’ve been letting my heart heal a bit.
This list is so needed. I will keep it close by. I am often asked what books I recommend. Thank you!
So good to hear that this book and your mom’s hope in heaven gave her peace. We all grieve on a different timetable. Maybe in time the book will be helpful but if not? God has His word this is the best comfort. Thank you, Carmen.
Facing a diagnosis that affected my brain and being able to process information, and being told there’s no cure, only hope for remission, sent me into grief quickly. But my path to healing began with Priscilla Shirer’s book God Is Able. A friend gave me the book Unshakable Hope by Max Lucado. Both were very much filled with wisdom that I needed to hear. God has lead me to Bible Studies that were amazing, which then lead me to understanding God in the most personal way! I prayed so hard for healing last year. But I’m so thankful that God didn’t heal me at that time as I would have missed out on so much that He has taught me through this journey. And I’ve come to the place where I thank God for my brain injury, for it has changed my life for the better!
That’s it exactly, Terri! God has so much for us IN the hard and we’d miss it if we got what we ordered. SO glad to see you doing well. xoxo
Thanks for a very helpful resource page. Another ancient classic is St. John Chrysostom’s Letter to a Young Widow http://www.ccel.org/ccel/schaff/npnf109.vi.iii.html?highlight=family#highlight
St. John Chrysostom was himself the child of a widow, so he had some knowledge borne of experience in the topic when he wrote.
I’m so glad to know of this! First, because I keep a list of children whose parent or parents died while they were young and second, glad to have this resource.
I am very grateful for this list. Not only for myself but for a very good friend who lost her young son unexpectedly and for my Mother and Law who still grieves hard like me. Your emails come in the just the moments and I’m so thankful. Another great book that brought some peace is “When God Winks” by Squire Rushnell.
Haven’t heard of that one, but I’ll look it up! So grateful for the encouragement we can give each other.
Lisa, a friend recommended “Life After the Storm” by Jan Harrison after I lost my seemingly healthy 37 year old son to an enlarged heart suddenly in December. Jan lost her son suddenly as well. Though it refers to the loss of an adult child, I found it would be helpful in any loss. Thank you for your list.
Thank you for this recommendation, Wanda. I’ll look for that one.
Some dear friends of ours just lost both of their only children in a vehicle accident. Their mother is not taking it well at all and their father is very angry. Is there a book that would be good for them?
I have read all of the books you mentioned except for except for three . We lost our son to a snowboarding accident and I read many of them in the first few years after his death . A Lament for a Son was a very honest and helpful one. We have had other losses on our family since then and I too find books help along the journey of grief and loss . A Grief Observed by CS.Lewis also is an insightful personal record of grief .
Everyone’s grief is different and yet because we all are similar in many ways we can find great comfort from those who have walked the same road and have been comforted by the Comforter.
As you also have ministered to so many grieving widows … I share your devotional with my sister in-law who also was widowed with five young children .God Bless and encourage you in your comforting ministry !
Buried Dreams by Lindsey Dennis is a great book on loss. She shares her story of carrying two babies to term who died within hours of being born, and she shares how God met her in the midst of the deep grief.
A wonderful devotional for grieving a baby lost in miscarriage or stillbirth is Grieving the child I never knew by kathe wunnenburg. It was given to me after my first miscarriage and it helped me work through so many emotions in such a clear way. I give it to anyone God puts on my heart who is experiencing this pain.
Lisa, I am sorry for the very hard loss you have suffered. Thank-you for all the great book selections. The wife of a friend just lost her adult son to a sudden heart attack and I want to send her some books that can help and comfort her. I have grown son’s also and cannot imagine one of them going before me. Thanks again, as now I have some ideas of books to buy for her. God is so good and so beautiful. May God bless and keep you and cover you with his peace and love.
Gettting your friend books to help her through this is so helpful. One of those I’ve heard again and again that helps is Lament for a Son, Nicholas Wolterstorff. I’m praying for your friend now.
My friend,Donna,husband just 48 years old passed away from covid. I had been standing in faith with her praying and believing in the Lord to heal him. My husband had been in hospital for 12 days before and was now home. My heart hurts for her and I would like to give her a book of hope of heaven and the peace only God can give her right now. Please let me know which book fits. My prayers go out to you as well. I know the Lord works all things out out for the good but it is hard to see when a person is grieving.
Hi Kellie, I’m so sorry for your friend’s loss. It’s an excruciating loss in any season and this one, where we are distanced makes it even harder. Streams in the Desert was especially helpful to me and perhaps would be for your friend as well.
Our granddaughter has had two miscarriages. I’ve been wondering how to support and recognize their grief. After seeing this list and praying, I decided to send them Grace Like Scarlett. Thank you for this list, it was very timely for me.
Thank you for this! Loosing my sister this year has been hard! Another book to look into is Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy by Mark Vroegop. It is on how to Biblically Lament and walks you through the process using Lamentations and some of the Lamenting Psalms.