When Dan died, we lost a hundred other things too.
Our grief isn’t just for missing him.
His death touched every single part of life. From the way we do dinner around the table to the rhythm of our calendar.
As the weeks wore on after his death, I slowly realized the full extent of loss.
The secondary losses in grief part of what make grief so tenacious, so pervasive as it upends normal in every part of life.
I made a list yesterday of the secondary losses for a young widow. My list might look a bit different than yours if you are grieving the death of a child, pregnancy loss, a divorce, a relationship, an adult child who’s living.